Mom DOESN’T want a gift for Mother’s Day??!!

Wendy Burruel sharing tips for connecting to the Moms in your world

Most Moms would rather NOT receive a gift on Mother’s Day.  Here’s what they want instead…


With Mother’s Day coming this weekend,  earlier this week I did an informal poll of the Moms in my Facebook network.  I asked the following question:

If you could have ANYTHING for Mother’s Day (absolutely no limits), what would you want to receive for Mother’s Day from your kids and/or your husband/wife/significant other/co-parent?

The answers that I got were eye-opening in that we usually run out to buy flowers, candy or other gifts for Mom on Mother’s Day, but the overwhelming majority of Moms that answered my poll said that they DIDN’T want gifts for Mother’s Day.

This got me thinking about Love Languages and how to connect with the Moms in your world this Mother’s Day by giving her EXACTLY what she wants.  In this week’s video segment, I discuss the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and how to figure out what to get the special Mom in your world based on her love language.

As Gary Chapman details in his book, there are 5 Love Languages — ways that we receive love and appreciation.  They are:

  • Gifts
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch

We discuss each of these and what kinds of “gifts” that you can get Mom this Mother’s Day based on her unique Love Language.

For those that are curious about what the Moms in my Facebook circle said that THEY wanted, here’s what they said:

I always want quality time: a fun day laughing, doing something outdoors, hanging out and enjoying each other’s company. ? Now that my kids are older, it’s totally doable and so cool when we get to do it!

A note of gratitude filled with specific memories and what they learned about life from me

Spa gift certificate for the works– facial, massage, wrap, scrub….. All of it!

I would want tickets to a show… dinner included and the person gifting it to me to be my date for said event… Making memories sharing music or art of some sort…. yes perfect.

Honestly a hand made card from my kids and some flowers – just thank you for all i do. and maybe have the house cleaned professionally to take it up a notch.

I’d love to spend the day with my sweet girls.

Quality time, no social media, no phones, and no wifi at all. Just my mom, sis, daughter, and I.

A clean and totally organized home. A day of fun in the river with my family and puppies. Handwritten notes about why they appreciate me along with a box of tissues and a photo shoot of my little family.

Flowers, breakfast made just for me (with the mess cleaned up), no arguing (with the child), surprise photos of the kiddo framed and hung up, and a special day out with all of us.

(From a brand-new Mom) – A nanny helper for a night so I can get a solid 7-8 hours of sleep without interruption.

Quality time together doing something fun (from my own Mom!)

To spend the whole day with my girls. They are the reason I am blessed to be called mom.

I would like for my family to go on a hot air balloon ride together.

Breakfast in bed with letters

Peace at home. No teasing or fighting. This is one I have requested and gotten in the past.

Time with my girls, but because that can’t be, I work for the feeling of totally being in cinque and feeling grateful for the women they’ve come to be. A Mother’s lament and often the reality: feeling pain and love concurrently. A drink with an umbrella in it helps.


As you can see, a lot of Moms DIDN’T want gifts for Mother’s Day, but they each expressed their desires in a way that feeds their Love Language.  So, your homework is to get out there and find out your Mom’s Love Language (or the special Mom in your world) and get her something that she REALLY wants.

And if you don’t have time to read the book, The 5 Love Languages or watch this week’s video, here’s what you need to do:

Just ASK your Mom (or the special Mom in your world) what she wants. I did and got a TON of answers!  She’ll tell you what will make her TRULY happy this Mother’s Day.  And that’s what it’s all about really…right?

Happy Mother’s Day to my Mom and all the Mom’s out there!